Colleges want to see a rigorous course load, but that means different things to different high schools. Your daughter will not be penalized if her high school does not offer AP options. Start her in whatever advanced classes are appropriate for her and see how she does.
Ask the high school for a copy of the profile report they send along with transcripts to colleges. If you haven’t received a copy of the curriculum guide, ask for one or download it from the school’s web site. Then ask what classes and levels your daughter needs in order to have the guidance counselor check the box that says she took the most rigorous course load available to her. College admissions is not about the number of AP classes taken so much as level of rigor, and APs are only one of several ways for your daughter to demonstrate she has challenged herself academically.
If taking an AP means “sitting in a library”, she might be better off limiting the number of APs she takes, and taking the ordinary advanced classes. As OP indicated, she will need a good rapport with teachers in order to get strong recommendations.
Ask the guidance department how well the students perform on SAT Subject Tests too. You’re at an advantage, having been through it all with your son.