Choosing ND over big scholarships at big publics

Only if you can afford it. We have 2 kids home from college doing online classes. A junior civil engineer from ND and a freshman attending another catholic private university. They are having vastly different experiences. ND student is continually engaged with residence staff, clubs & teachers. She spends all day doing homework and all evening engaged with peers at ND. Her sister is a mechanical engineering major ( only a freshman) but she spends more time playing xbox than on school work. Many of her classes have changes from lecture/zoom to read a book and write a reflection or video a speech and send it in. I realize that she is only a freshman and her classes are not as intense has her sisters but Notre Dame has done an unbelievable job with online instructions and making the kids feel like they are still part of ND. Dorm rector has weekly Zoom meeting with dorm, RA are checking in weekly, all events such as hall meeting, etc are happening. Younger daughter has not had any contact from dorm since she left. I honestly never fully appreciated the ND dorm system until now.