Chosing between colleges.

Parents Forum
61

<p>The joke in our family is that my D should not be concerned about where in the country she wants to go to college because Mom will want to move there before D begins her Sophomore year. While that is not true, it helps to diffuse the location question in a humorous way. </p>

<p>And when it comes to money, I’m the one who says we’ll do whatever it takes to help her attend the school of her choice - including seeking out every obscure scholarship program I can find - while Mom frets about the money. </p>

<p>Are we giving her mixed messages? Probably. But I also think it shows D that there are many “adult” points of view to consider, and each has a legitimate bearing on her final decision. However, we also make it clear that she has to be happy with her choice.</p>

<p>As a result, we feel that D is doing a very good job reviewing her college possibilities. But is she any closer to making a decision, no way. Even though I’m confidant she’ll do what’s best for her, I guarantee you I will be bald by this time next year (from pulling my hair out in frustration).</p>

62

<p>i just got into Bryn Mawr… and my mom can’t be any happier for me. :)</p>

<p>she’s actually moving to philly so, she’s happy for me too :)</p>

<p>thanks for everyone for giving me advice and helping me through. i’m still waiting from other colleges, but my mind is between bryn mawr and ucsd.</p>

63

<p>I know my mom would really want me to go somewhere close to home, so she promised me my dream car if I go to UGA, but if i go out of state I don’t get the car, and the extra money for personal stuff is cut in half. :frowning: I still haven’t made up my mind. If she wouldn’t told me that I wouldn’t even thought twice about UGA, but now I am send back some of the requested forms.</p>

64

<p>Wow, Bryn Mawr vs. UCSD. Such different schools. </p>

<p>If you were my daughter, I’d most want to see you at Bryn Mawr. Here’s why:

  1. BM is in a different climate and cultural region. The east is much different than CA and that experience would be valuable for you. (I’m assuming that you’re not originally from the east)
  2. BM is a terrific LAC with a small student body. You’d have the opportunity to make lifelong relationships with students and faculty. It’s just a different experience than the large universities.
  3. Young people love San Diego . . . but they can’t afford to live there. I know too many college grads who are paying $1400-1600 each month to live in the area and they’ll most likely never be able to purchase a house in the area. After spending 4 years of college in San Diego, most don’t want to leave. I say this as my son is awaiting acceptance to a LAC in San Diego.</p>

<p>So there’s my unsolicited comments as a CA mom.</p>

65

<p>Wow thanks Elliotsmom! :)</p>

<p>I actually have no idea what I want. All I know is that I don’t want a huge school where I don’t know everyone, but at the same time, I am worried about colleges which have such a small student body that if you don’t get along with the student body, you won’t have any friends. Does that make sense? I hope it does.</p>

<p>I think San Diego is the perfect place with the perfect weather and the perfect surrounding, but the thing is that I’m worried that many of the students there aren’t as bright as BMC’s students (because it is a state school after all, you know?).</p>

<p>But at the same time, I’m wondering if BMC’s students are very elitist (spelling?) and I don’t really want to be around people who hold Louis Vuitton handbags and wear expensive clothing all the time.</p>

<p>So, I’m pretty lost in what I want to do and where I want to go.</p>