The thread that @midwestmomofboys referred to is a great thread. Keeper Dad got us through the initial recruiting process. Even though the thread is old and some of the rules may have changed, it is well worth it to read through the entire thread. There is a lot of great advice there.
Our DS just finished his last quarter playing D2 soccer. I remember how stressful the recruiting process was and can’t believe he is now done with competitive soccer (and will be done with school in December.) Good luck to all those starting this process!