@3SailAway , you are so right! There are folks who make themselves and others miserable with the “woulda, shoulda, coulda” routine so that one tries to minimize the impact of that. But you lose thatchy regardless because you can skip ED and not get accepted anywhere and then obsess over the lost opportunity of legacy boost ED at Penn , for instance.
My friend was really upset when her son was WL at Penn( legacy) after choosing to EA MIT and deferred there. If he had not been accepted RD, she felt thatbtheyd all be hurting. Yes, it’s not only a first world problem but a luxurious, privileged one, but caused stress in those involved.