@austinmshauri Thank you for that perspective.
I think what doesn’t work between us is that I am a fixer. If there is a problem, deal with it. Get past it. Like my father, I lost my mother in high school. I did not have anyone there to pick up pieces so empathy doesn’t come naturally to me. I was an uber achiever. She is smart, pretty and capable. It is hard for me to be very empathetic when I think she SHOULD be able to make better progress.
Regardless of where the money is coming from, would other parents really keep forking out? She not only costs additional semesters tuition but there are all the associated costs of paying her living expenses. She could actually live at home-we are a short hour to her school-but she would not consider that and now that she went around me to get to funding, she is comfortable in her city digs. Is an education worth this much? and do I need to be more patient?