@happymomof1 There will be enough left for the others, regardless of how much she burns through. I just want her to be principled and to experience the confidence that comes with being self supporting. If Grandpa had all of his wits, he would have pulled the plug by now, on principle. He put himself through college in 3 years, earned a chemical engineering degree, and sent home money to his family as his mother had died and his father was bankrupt w 3 kids at home. He doesn’t/didn’t have a lot of sympathy in him, though she is his “favorite”.
She definitely has diagnosed anxiety. Also ADD and executive functioning disorder. She has worked with a learning specialist and become more organized so that she gets her school work done, and well, but it has taken a long time. She is on meds for both.
I had bought her the health insurance through her college 18 months ago. $3000 for the policy for the year. Thought it would take the pressure off husband’s work family policy. She never used it. I have repeatedly told her she could still submit receipts and be reimbursed but she won’t do it. I didn’t renew it-I just let her stay on the family policy. When she discovered she was cut off coverage from the family policy due to her age, it was a surprise for all of us. I knew her age was a threshold; I just didn’t know how that would be effected but I guess the insurance company is the one who does the countdown and kick off.
Not getting courses transferred and credited was entirely on her. I reminded her repeatedly that it needed to be done. She has worked very hard at keeping me out of her business because she didn’t like being caught deficient (understandable but not productive). That is why we don’t know for sure if she is graduating. No access to her transcript and she tells us what she wants us to hear, seemingly regardless of reality (but we did receive a bill for summer courses for a masters she is apparently tagging on. At one point, it was going to be a minor.)
I welcome feedback. I feel like the meanest mom with a very indulged kid.