My daughter is dyslexic, dysgraphic, and dyscalculic. Those come with executive functioning issues. I’ve found it’s better to encourage and help her. If you’re just making your daughter feel like a burden because school is taking her longer than it does others and acting like she’s spoiled and indulged instead of treating her like a young woman with medical and learning issues, it doesn’t surprise me she’s reluctant to share things with you. Have you read up on the challenges she’s facing? That may help you learn to deal with them.