I really get you. Most of my friends are not science people and there is only one who is also that stressed about his future. It is hard to find friends of your passion, but working solely sometimes is beneficial. For example, you do not spend that much time chatting and can study or work or do research on this time.
Thanks. I kinda figured I had to be wrong but just wanted confirmation. If I do give myself any credit, its that I manage this stuff very well. Ive been working since I was in 8th grade and saving up cash for opportunities, ive gone through 4 jobs (babysitting, busser, kids tennis instruction, bakery worker) and I still do 3 of them. Stuff aint cheap and my parents are focused on my younger sisters, one of whom is a little intellectually challenged and really needs that extra help. (Edit: said two jobs because tennis was just a summer thing and the bakery only needs me during holidays. I alternate a lot)
Im very on my own with things, and it looks like sadly thats gonna shape my college app
They are veeeryyyy suspicious of me. They leave me alone to do my own things and then go all shocked when I actually do things. âwhy arenât you doing your schoolworkâ but when I do my schoolwork its âwhy havenât you finished yet are u being lazy?â. I cant win, I have to accept that theres gonna be suspicious
Ha, im not really burnt out. I enjoy pushing myself and getting places and ive learned to pick myself up after repeated failures. Being academically challenged is a journey I enjoy
However, I do have a problem, and thats the fact that I struggle with really bad anxiety. I can also be impulsive, immature and judgy at times.
Ive made a chance me post in the past, and that last piece of advice is ultimately what ive gone with. I cant do things for specific colleges, I have to do this because I love them and they will lead me where I am meant to be.
But worrying about the future never leaves me alone, and now its in program applications.
This was very helpful and ill take it with importance, thank you!
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Thanks! Good luck to her, and my congrats on everything turning out well! Id love to speak to someone whos gone through this process, and CC has been helpful with that. Its really nice to hear
Bookmarked, thank you! And congrats on everything working out! How is college going for you rn?
My dear, I really much get you⊠My parents are just like that⊠The only way is to stay focused and try managing things the best you can. Are you keeping a notebook for the plans for every day? That is what helped me a lot. Just a list of everything that has to be done with due dates, and for every single day write those things you havenât finished or have new. And cross out what is done. Even the smallest. This will give you a personal reward of that you are doing something. And you will be able to show you parents to say âlook, I am a mature person with my own goals and here is what I accomplish each dayâ.
You are a human, well and they are humans too. They are somewhat overwhelmed and we have no chance except for accepting it. Just show them your plans at some point and what your are doing each day.
Thank you!
Uhhh⊠College applications are insane, even on the early stage. It is easy to find safety schools and reach schools. But it is soo hard to find target schools with good programs.
How is this process going for you?
You might keep an open mind about the strategies that work for others who are dealing with anxiety. Your hyper focus on academics surely isnât helping.
Do you get regular physical activity? Do you enjoy the arts- singing, painting, even badly? Do you cook or bake? Do a craft- pottery, needlepoint- anything that doesnât get a grade or where you donât need to excel in order to enjoy it? Play in a garage band- even off-key, but an opportunity to enjoy life with others?
If I were advising you IRL, based on what youâve posted I would DEFINITELY urge you NOT to do âlab workâ this summer. Regardless of your academic and professional goals, managing anxiety is a lifelong skill and thereâs no better time to learn it than now when the stakes are low. You arenât paying a mortgage or car payments, you arenât balancing a spouseâs career-- all things that are hard to do for anyone.
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I take medications and I speak to a therapist. I started hyper focusing on academics about mid fresh year when a lot of bad things happened to my friend group. Academics took my mind off it. I adored science as a little girl, but highschool threw a curveball and I shoved it to the side to try and fit it more. Big mistake. Going back to academics and science has improved a lot of my life. I might seem crazy and unwell now, but I was much worse before! It feels like ive retaken my life.
I do have a small group of local friends. They donât care about academics at all, and when we hang out we always have fun. We recently went on vacation together. We get food, chill at my house making stuff, go to the beach together, etc. I used to drink and party a lot but I fell out of that and im glad I did. But my best friends are my cousins (and sisters). They have supported me every step of the way and theres no one id rather spend time with then them. Unfortunately none of them like bio/med except one, but it doesnât even matter with how much theyve helped me. We hang out a lot and its always such a breath of fresh air.
As for personal hobbies that arenât science related, I am a very good baker and cook. I make food for my family and friends a lot. I also like making little things from clay. I play tennis and I like to exercise, which really helps with managing emotions- something I am notoriously bad at. I have favorite shows I watch, favorite games I play, and favorite foods to make. Oh, and I love helping people. I have a long story behind my community service that I wonât say here, but I love it
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