<p>Not exactly the same situation, but somewhat similar. My D has a very good friend whom I truly do love, however, she has some issues. The friend gets help from a counselor, but sometimes her issues do take over my D’s life as she also tries to help her. When they were looking for schools to apply to in the fall, D’s friend applied to many of the same schools and told D they should go together. I sat D down and explained to her that this was the time in her life to focus on herself and to not be that responsible for someone else. Another mom who is familiar with the situation talked to the school Guidance Counselor about my concerns. And the GC talked to D and her friend. I think it helped D to hear this from another adult as well. Thankfully, the friend enrolled in a different college. Possibly there is another adult whom your S respects that could discuss this in a new way?</p>