<p>Oh dear, I can kind of commiserate with you. My D was planning on attending state flagship in the honors program along with her boyfriend ( of 3 months.) No problem. They both had pretty much arrived at this decision before boyfriend/girlfriend status. This school is huge. No problem if they would break up.</p>
<p>Fast forward to a week ago. She gets accepted to a super good LAC that we didn’t think would happen or be able to pay for. They gave her a tremendous aid package making it financially doable. This had been her dream schoOl at the beginning of her search. First school we visited etc…</p>
<p>Now she wants to go to the LAC but feels guilty about leaving her boyfriend. Mind you, they will only be about 45 min apart and she will have a car so it shouldn’t be a problem to see each other. But this is what is holding her back from committing to the LAC.</p>
<p>The thing is, he is a parents dream for a boyfriend- nice, smart, raised in Christian home and exceedingly kind. When she opened her acceptance last week though, I could just see his disappointment but these kids are barely 18 years old and I hardly think should be considering putting a 3 month relationship over college choice… Especially when the colleges are so close and they will be able to see each other every weekend.</p>
<p>I never though this would happen withy daughter. This is only her second boyfriend and she has always been a very independent thinker. But she reeeeeaally likes this guy. So what to do? Don’t yell. It will probably make it worse. Slowly interject your reason for your son to pick the right college for him. This is what I am doing. If your son is like my daughter there is guilt involved but I think we need to calmly convey to them to not feel so guilty.</p>
<p>Worse comes to worse, my D will attend the flagship with miniml debt and probably do great. But this other school is a better fit for her in many areas. Hope it works out for your son. We have to let them make decisions and deal with the consequences but we also have the money so I think we should be allOwed to have a strOng opinion.</p>