<p>It really is such a complicated situation. The fact is, at one point your family was satisfied with this school being on your son’s list. Now the admissions have rolled in and the family satisfaction with school seems to have softened. If the family was attending, then I would say you have a voice. But if the school was a true safety (meaning financial also) and your son is not turning his back on a full ride somewhere else, then there is really no choice but to let it be. Frustrating…heck yes! If you force him to another school and he does poorly, which can really happen because of all sorts of reasons (and missing and yearning for a girlfriend is one of them) then it will be your fault in your son’s eyes.</p>
<p>Our neighbor has a daughter that is so bright and accomplished and she was excepted into some private schools and our two State Flagships and she is, in my opinion, settling for a dressed up community college because her boyfriend attends there. She swears it is because it is the right “fit” for her, and maybe it is. Sometimes being with the person you love can make even the most dire situations bearable and even appealing.</p>