<p>Hang in there, naggymom. A B/B+ average is actually very good, and I doubt that the Chinese grade will be a deal breaker. You son has a balanced list, and I expect that he will have more acceptances. Why are you worried that he messed up his Pitt application? If it’s something that you can correct or update, I would contact them now.</p>
<p>This is a very stressful time for students and parents. Good luck to you and your son.</p>
<p>I am happy to announce that my daughter got accepted to University of Miami Class of 2018! She applied ED. She is trilled and surprised because we expected results on Dec. 20th.</p>
<p>ddahwan, congrats. Nice to be done on December 9th…</p>
<p>What a difference a year makes. At this time last year, I was dying over my DS admissions. You don’t realize how much you work yourself up until they are off to school and settled. At least it’s a relief to have one acceptance in the bag.</p>
<p>Congrats to my good friend ddahwan on her DD’s acceptance to UM. Two times a Cane. Life is good :)</p>
<p>Congratulations to momentscaught and ddahwan on those great acceptances! Keep the good news coming!</p>
<p>three happy families so far! mazal tov to all 3 of you!</p>
<p>Thank you for the support! Re: UVM, I always hear how happy kids are, but my son pretty much applied because of my pushing him (I love Burlington VT! and I thought it would be a good safety). He does know some kids who go there, and today got the invite for the Honors program, so that might make it more appealing for him. Also today got a Yes from Pitt–so I guess he didn’t mess up the application-- It definitely helps to have these 2, though as far as my son goes, these are the ones, along with UMass, that he wasn’t that excited about. I think any of the others on the list he’d be happy with, so fingers crossed.</p>
<p>I think also my waves of anxiety come from not only how unpredictable this whole process is, but how unpredictable my son’s behavior is. Though averaging out to B’s, during each school year, his grades are absolutely all over the place. As is he, a scattered Exec Dysfunction kid. Plus, he crashed the car 2 months after getting his license last summer (! he was fine, the car was not); and one nite, came home after obviously partying too much with a chipped tooth, having gotten into a fight with another kid! I know this makes him sound like a bad-boy, and then again in other ways, he’s such a good kid. It’s been such a roller-coaster ride with him!</p>
<p>Congrats on the UM acceptance!</p>
<p>Thanks everybody😊. Hang in there. In the end most kids find the place they fit and belong and soon enough you will be complaining of why they are not texting you instead of spending so much time enjoying their college life. I still have one in 8th grade so I am still not over with the college game, however it will be a happy break after two back-to-back ACT-applications. Good Luck to all of you.</p>
<p>naggymom - wonderful news on UVM and Pitt - two great options already!</p>
<p>Congrats on the other acceptances!!! I hear wonderful things about UVM and my son did also apply ( we hear on the 17th). That is actually the safety he would be most excited about going to. My husband just interviewed a really bright and well rounded man who graduated from there and the man raved about his education. It is stressful, I was asked by a girl friend of my sons why I’m so stressed and the only thing I could come up with for this 18 year old girl was that as a parent we just want them to have “everything”. I don’t mean things obviously but every opportunity that and the fact that as a control freak it kills me that I have 0 control over the outcome. Just have to believe that he will end up where he is meant to end up.</p>
<p>This is so helpful to be able to process about the process! That is why I needed to check back in. Can definitely relate to having to accept the lack of control, and to accept that my son has LDs/ADD and is not as motivated as my husband and I wish he could be… but learning, over and over, to accept him for who he is and hope that he will find his own way …</p>
<p>Congrats to ddawan’s D! It’s going to be very nice for you to have 2 kids at the same school. I visited Miami, and it looks like a great place to go to college.</p>
<p>Naggymom, you son sounds like a typical teenager, although his LDs/ADD might make things more difficult. The best advice I ever got on CC was to “love the kid on the couch, not the one you wish you had.” Congrats on the Pitt acceptance.</p>
<p>Talk about lack of control… wait till they are at college, happy, busy, etc., and you have to text them and ask for “proof of life.” Especially if you have a son. I expected it and it is still hard. Continue to hear regularly from my DD (who is a college senior). But my son, not so much. Now that he’s got his laundry figured out (he used to text me about that a lot in September), I hardly hear from him.</p>
<p>So enjoy the process, as stressful as it is, and enjoy the time with them this year, as stressful as it is. Enjoy the ups and downs. But stay on this thread as we will help you get acclimated to the “new normal!”</p>
<p>Thank you all so much! Also thank you to the person who PM’d me; I so appreciate the encouragement from someone who’s been on that particular roller coaster ride and I’m so grateful for the time you took to write. I guess I can’t PM back yet as I don’t have enough posts (?) not sure how all this stuff works yet.</p>
<p>I met today with DS’s psych teacher who assured me that my son reminds him of exactly how he was at that age (“too cool” to look to into school, etc.)–but this teacher is amazing in what he does with these kids today. So that was helpful as well.</p>
<p>LINYMOM, I cracked up about the proof of life bit. Can’t imagine not hearing from my D at least once per day just to know she is alive and safe! Incredible to think how our parents didn’t have this issue for lack of cell phones and texting. I know D will be happy about it but me, not so much!</p>
<p>On another note, the U Arizona board is not overly active so I’m posting here. We are visiting Arizona again the weekend of Jan 24th and we’d love to meet up with a student to give D an inside look. If you know anyone who is a current student please PM me. Thank you!</p>
<p>Naggymom just an FYI my son has a LD and ADD and although we argue often about his actually doing work in what I consider a timely matter he did a complete 180 a year ago ( he was also held back in K, which I mention because I believe that the extra year was so important for him). I believe they all grow up in their own time and with the right self motivation so don’t right him off quite yet… My son was inspired by one teacher who allowed him to realize that even with his ADD and LD he is very smart and now being smart is a huge part of his self worth and identity. In 10th grade I wouldn’t believe it was possible, in 11th I figured he got lucky with some good teachers and now he’s unstoppable.</p>
<p>@naggymom –
Congratulations on the UVM acceptance!! Wonderful school with solid LD support.</p>
<p>My son (who has a learning profile similar to your son’s) was considering UVM,
and I love the school but, from a philosophical perspective, I just couldn’t support
UVM’s out-of-state tuition. My son (who has 3 ‘affordable’ acceptances to date)
will attend either a(n) LAC where he can get merit money, an in-state university
or, taking advantage of his dual citizenship, a Canadian school.</p>
<p>@LINYMOM: ‘Proof-of-life’ – great line.</p>
<p>LINYMOM: I had to laugh at “proof of life” because I had just sent my D a “Hey, you alive?” text at 7:30 this morning (EST) after a week of silence. She must have gotten the message because even in Calif, she replied “Yeah” immediately (maybe she was just going to bed-yikes!).</p>
<p>Re “proof of life” - very funny. My sons are both authorized users on my credit card. So, I keep tabs that way - I can see that someone played golf or had a meal at Hooters! I see a charge - I have my “proof of life” - and I bite my tongue at some of the charges I see!</p>