It sounds like you are looking for a medium sized private in a city/pretty location that will give significant merit aid. Preferably in a liberal area where you don’t have to worry about who you date. This is similar to what I am looking for for my dd. I haven’t found many schools that work!
Maybe look at:
University of Denver
College of William and Mary ($$?)
Occidental (small but urban)
Lewis and Clark (small but urban)
Rollins (small but suburban but also Florida so conservative)
University of Puget Sound (small but sort of urban)
If Jesuit is okay - University of Portland, University of San Diego, Loyola Marymount, Santa Clara University, Seattle.
I’m not super familiar with these, they are ones I am asking my dd to research.