<p>How in the world is it “well known” that Vassar “like a number of other colleges” has a higher than average gay male population? I know a lot about a bunch of colleges, mostly of the East Coast Establishment variety (like Vassar), and most of which qualifies as folklore, I guess. I have various relatives who went to Vassar or taught there, my kids have numerous friends who went to Vassar. This is the first I have heard that it has a higher than average gay male population. </p>
<p>I don’t believe it, certainly not on your hearsay-so. For all sorts of reasons, it doesn’t seem like a place that would be super-attractive to most gay men. And I have no idea exactly how you know what the “average” for gay men is in the first place, much less where Vassar comes in relation to it.</p>
<p>I agree that it’s reasonable for a straight woman to consider the ratio of women to men at Vassar – and even if it’s not reasonable, it’s predictable that will happen. But I don’t think there’s any reason for her to believe that some higher-than-average percentage of the lower-than-optimal number of men will categorically reject the idea of sex with her.</p>