@brantly I can’t help you or most individuals who share your views. I’ll just say that it is much better to look at the positives in life than focus on negatives and the past. There will come a time in your life when you have to learn to forgive others and move on. No one can live their entire lives with constant fear and anxiety. I hope most Jewish students at Oberlin choose to think positively and have peace of mind. It will benefit them and make their college experience a lot better.