No. Not at all! Kids banshee-ing in the backyard and yipping dogs are not appreciated here.
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We have that nearby, plus a new rooster seems to have moved in the neighborhood. But still a major improvement over the new house and ADU construction for the last year and more. Theyâre both almost done.
I live in a 150 unit building. Iâve only had problems with 3 neighbors in the building, so thatâs pretty good, except 2 of them are one on top and bottom of me.
My upstairs neighbor had a toilet leak, but refused to fix it until I filed a small claim against them. They moved here when their first child was only few years old. I lived through him bouncing a ball in the mornings and dragging chairs across the room. They have a daughter now (maybe 8-10 yrs). I donât see how they could have a family of 4 living in a 2 bedroom apartment.
My downstairs neighbor is trying to get me to remodel their bathroom because I had a leak in the bathroom, which I fixed as soon as I knew. They have gone quiet after the super told them that many issues they have raised were not due to the leak and they would need to go through their insurance to file a claim.
During Covid, when I was cleaning the windows myself (no one was out during that time) some water dripped, and it accidentally landed on one of my neighbors. I apologized and offered to clean or buy his outfit. He claimed I maliciously poured covid infested water on him. He came to my door to threaten me. I filed a complaint against him with the management agent and told him to stay away from me. A year ago I ran into him in an elevator, he started on me again. I at first apologized again, but when he wouldnât listen I told him if he were ever come near me again I would put a restraining order on him and have him kicked out of the apartment. I think someone spoke with his wife and son (owner of the apartment) because he has left me alone since then.
I would say most people in my building are very nice and polite.
Just to add, I will pay for my downstairs neighborâs ceiling damage due to the leak. The super said he would do it and I would pay him. I also paid him to fix my ceiling after the second leak from my neighbor upstairs. It was easier than to deal with them again.
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This is unreal. Who does this?!! Covid infested water?!!!
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Not trying to diagnose @oldfort âs neighbor, but just guessing that this may be a man with some mental illness.
We too have a neighbor with mental illness who can be quite challenging with outbursts and arguments. We try to avoid her triggers and communicate directly with her mother who does not live on the property but can usually help resolve conflicts.
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That makes sense.
I think Covid triggered a lot mental illnesses. A good friend was committed for 6 months with very aggressive treatments. A friendâs sister OCD behavior was escalated during that time as well. It was to the point that she couldnât leave the house.
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It can trigger other diseases, too. A good friend was diagnosed with MS shortly after covid.
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Tomorrow is âtree cutting/trimming/shapingâ day with the neighbors. Uphill neighbors are great. We have gingerly navigated with the downhill neighbors who are pushing us to cut a tree that is leaning towards their house and has branches on their roof because they have never had a single bit of tree care/maintenance done in the 15 years they have lived there. They donât understand that the tree grows towards the sun, and that is why the branches are on their side (so there isnât a balanced canopy). They accused us of cutting all the branches off on our side which they tried to claim caused the lean (umâŠno). They had an arborist come out who explained that to them(growing towards the sun plus their failure to ever trim the branches on their side cause an uneven weight). They are still demanding we take down a living tree, so we agreed, and are sharing the cost. I will handle being home tomorrow morning when the tree guys arrive. DH will handle the afternoon.
Meant to add tooâ sweet lady who lived 2 doors up practically gave her house away (It needed a lot of updating, but stillâŠ.)The new neighbors are doing a ton of work before they move in. I met the H and he seems like a great guy and the wife and I have texted several times (the neighbors in between us live out of state half the year, and the neighbors on the other side of them keep totally to themselves and are unfriendly). They had a boatload of tree work done last week and took EVERY tree from the front yard (And there were some very large, mature trees that were pretty) and took a ton from the side and back as well. It will take some tie to get used to the ânew lookâ. Several of us wished they had left some of the trees, as they were healthy and pretty) but⊠oh well.
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There was (briefly) a pickle ball court painted on the usually quiet parking lot behind my house. So fun, thwack, thwack, thwack, thwack for hours on end just feet from our patio. I never complained directly, but I assume many other neighbors did. After a few weeks the court was painted back to parking spaces and our peace was restored.
On the side there was a basketball net 10â from our kitchen window. That was a bit less intrusive but still loud all evening. Those kids have long since moved and the current people are rarely outside.
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Got a strange text from my neighbor today. She is a good friend. Weâve been friends since our girls were little and BFFs (they no longer are, but me and the mom are still very close). She has a heart of gold and would do anything or anyone. She is a loyal friend. But, her husband is racis. I donât interact with him much and he never bothers anyone. Just goes to work and comes home. His racism is the âold worldâ type. I only know about it because of things she tells me he says. She has also said things I find racist, but not meant in a way to hurt anyone. If she was confronted about it, she would admit she didnât know it was a racist thing to say and wouldnât say it anymore. For both of them, I seems like an education thing. While she did go to nursing school, they both grew up in families that only socialized within the family and anyone out side of that group was met with suspicion. In one of our first conversations, she mentioned something along the lines of âJew the price downâ and how the Jewish doctors should all be required to work on Christmas (I donât think she realized I was Jewish at the time).
So, this morning I got a text asking why âmy daughters friendâ parks his car in the cul-de-sac (only 3 houses) and not in my driveway. I donât live in the cul-de-sac, but across the street and one house down from it. But, anyhow, the house across from her has people over all the time that park in the cul-de-sac and also often have a boat, a camper or a sports car in the cul-de-sac. She wasnât angry. Just curious. I told her I didnât realize he was parking there, but I think he does it because he thinks we wonât notice he spent the night that way. (We donât car if he spends the night. Lizardgirl is 21. But, he is a very polite, church going young man and I think he wouldnât want to look disrespectful). Or, because if it breaks down, which itâs done recently, it wonât be blocking us in our garage. Then she made a joke about how her kids thought it was someone homeless and that she should call the police. It just so happens the young man is Black. Iâm pretty sure her kids would not have said that about Lizardgirlâs ex who was a white, Genesis driving cop.
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If I was in this situation, Iâd say she became a little less âgood friendâ to me today.
I hope you make you daughters BF feel very welcome in your home - during the day or even at breakfast. 
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Not sure whether to post this in the difficult Neighbors thread or the terrible delivery companies thread. Our UPS delivery guy is awful. He also isnât very nice usually (although he was nice to me when I tipped him for bringing a large box into the house) and he mis-delivers packages all the time. So I got a package today. (hallelujah to the right address). Itâs a small miracle that I got my package today because he never scanned it as âout for deliveryâ, and the last time that happened the every last order he was to deliver), when it only said that it was âon the truckâ, the previous package was lost and a replacement had to be sent. So I was worried again today when he didnât scan the package as âout for deliveryâ, but miracle of miracles it arrived. But my next-door neighbor, the difficult one downhill, was also expecting a package and the picture that he was given was of someone at my door (it was a pest service guy). But the package on my doorstep was my package and I have a picture of just my package. Thereâs more to the story but the bottom line is I suggested that he might want to check the house on the other side of us, as thatâs where I saw the delivery truck parked when I was coming home (because there was another truck in front of my house at the time), and the people who live on the other side of us are out of town. So yippee. He ultimately went to check our other neighborâs house and sure enough thatâs where his package was! He actually sent me some kind words of appreciation. I think maybe I should frame them.
Ours will normally deliver a package. However, if someone needs to sign for it, he just drives by and leaves without stopping. If you are standing in the front yard looking at him, or standing in the kitchen watching him drive by from the window, he drives away and later you get a report that no one was home and they could not deliver the package. If you actively run after the truck while waving your hands vigorously, then he sometimes stops and lets you get the package.
And I have gotten a few pictures of other peopleâs porches with my package on it.
Not what I would have hoped for. Other package delivery companies seem to be better.
On the other hand, if the package is delivered to the wrong home, then in our neighborhood it usually then gets hand delivered by the homeowner to the right house. I have had this happen a few times, and have taken packages to neighborâs homes a few times.
I feel lucky that weâve always had great UPS guys. Especially considering we had one dog that I swore would never bite anyone EXCEPT the UPS guy. I think they even put a note in about him, but they still always brought the packages to the door. I think they saw a lab and assumed there wouldnât be an issue. Our other dog (golden) would jump in the truck and steal anything in a Dunks bag. Sometimes theyâd bring her for a ride before dropping her back off (we live in a neighborhood that is a circle) and our third dog was a150 lbs Pyr and wouldnât hurt a fly, but everyone would do a backpedal when youâd open the door and see his huge head there.
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Our delivery people have about 70% accuracy Iâd say. Normally itâs not a huge deal, neighbors are pretty good about dropping things off, or I recognize the front door in the picture and go get whatever package myself. But there is one neighbor who just keeps whatever gets misdirected to their house. Itâs happened to at least three of us, that, according to the picture, packages have gone to this one house (where we never see actual people outside, but cars move so clearly someone lives there, no idea who cuts the lawn because Iâve never seen it happen, but itâs maintained) and the package has never resurfaced. Itâs annoying.
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@OctoberKate -your post reminded me of something. In a few neighborhoods we have lived in there was a âweird houseâ. The ones where you live across the street from someone and NEVER see them in over 10 years. Not. Ever. You know someone lives in the house but no signs of the actual people. And Iâm not talking about apartments, these are single family homes with yards. Or alternatively a house that turns over ownership but the people who live there are always people who are strange. We had a house like that in my last neighborhood.
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Nosy Neighbor is back in town after a 6 month hiatus elsewhere. The peace and quiet was nice while it lasted. A couple of days after her arrival, she had a cleaning service come to clean her house.
How do I know this? I was outside on Saturday morning doing tree-trimming in my pajamas in the front yard at 9:00 am when the cleaning person showed up. Many hours later, at 6:10 pm, I left to go meet D26 for her break at her job at Wally World (Walmart) and the cleaning ladyâs car was still there.
Hey Nosy Neighbor: You havenât even been in the house for 6 months, how is there 9 hoursâ worth of dirt to clean up in that place?
I bet yâall $50 that some of her feral grandchildren are going to swoop into town during the October UT fall break week and there will be much screaming & yelling outside until 11:00 pm every night, along with throwing marshmallows and other things over the fence into my backyard.
She also had landscapers show up on Sat morning. I honestly donât know why because 75% of her yard is fake. Like, they even have plastic plants in their front & back yard over there. Fake grass, too. What do you need a landscaper for?
And every time the landscaper comes, they blow the dirt & leaves into my front yard and onto my sidewalk and just leave it there. Next time, Iâm gonna take my leaf blower to give the sidewalk leaves back to her.
If you heard the angels singing today, thatâs because my Nosy Neighborâs house is for sale!
OH THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! YAY!!!
The house is way overpriced. Like, itâs overpriced by about $100,000. And she has some weird ball-shaped plastic plants in the front & backyard from the At Home store. And all of the decor in the house is gray. Like the floors are sort of gray, the walls are various shades of gray. The backsplash tiles in the kitchen are shiny gray subway tiles.
Please please please let some normal people buy the house. 
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