@MomoThe Peach
I’m not sure if there was anything other than a need to rant and release the pressure valve. And I can see why. But while your parents are putting the pressure on you and your sib, it also feels to me that you are putting it on yourself as well. First, no matter what your parents want, if you don’t get into an Ivy, there isn’t much they can do about that. But the more important question is do YOU kind of want to go, or are you thoroughly confused? The existential crisis of the value of what is important in life starts with you. Your parents aren’t helping in this department, but don’t expect them to. All I can advise you to be is realistic and true to yourself. If you want to go for an Ivy, then go for it, but don’t kick yourself in self-defeat because you don’t think you are deserving of it. There are a lot of kids that deserve to get in that don’t, but it didn’t stop them from moving on. And yes, the Ivy league are not the only schools that offer great educations…your parents need to be educated on this subject. With this…now…
Stop whining about yourself and get to living life for you, not your parents. Few are genius, many go to competitive schools, some have no idea what their passions are, but they keep trying. If you think you don’t work as hard others, what are you waiting for? Get to it. No one is stopping you. College is great where YOU want to be–where YOU will thrive.** I’d rather you have choices because you worked for them instead of giving up because you don’t think you deserve them.** You will not find your passions unless you just live and figure it out as you go. Ignore your parent’s obsession with the Ivy league and live for yourself. And if that ends up being where you do hope to go to school, then go for it. Just try to remember that this is your life, no matter how overbearing your parents get. You don’t have to tell them you disagree, just work hard for yourself and end up where you will be happy.