I agree with @stalecookies
The grass is always greener. That being said I think there’s a huge difference between hate crimes and what I have seen at Groton which is one group of boys having to be told constantly not to use slurs of several varieties and not learning. But the rest of the kids are accepting. I don’t think you are going to find any school where this isn’t an issue. You might find schools where parents and adults don’t know it’s happening…or it happens less often. BS is a mix of kids from ALL different backgrounds, and unfortunately in our current world, that means some kids who are jerks.