Controlling Mother. help? How do I convince her?

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My mom isn’t bluffing at all. She said she’d disown me in front of my brother. My father isn’t going to help at all either. Hell, he doesn’t care and doesn’t think that I’m his “daughter”.

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<p>xLefty, I was wondering what were the circumstances when she said this to you? It’s possible that your mom said this in the heat of an argument with you? Maybe as a reaction to some things you said and the way you uttered it that she considered disrespectful? I guess I cannot wrap my head around the fact that if both of you were sitting down and you presented to her in a calm, respectful way a spreadsheet showing net costs for her for all three schools that she would suddenly say that she’d disown you.</p>

<p>If she suddenly went ballistic despite your calm presentation then I agree with scmom12’s suggestion:

Now that you have all packages could you appeal to a guidance counselor at HS for help. Ask him/her to sit down with you and Mom and review all options. It may be that your Mom would respond more positively to another adult…she doesn’t seem to trust that you understand the finances, etc involved in college.

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