I attended a smaller east coast Catholic school with zero Greek life. Most parties occurred in off campus housing adjacent to campus or at bars that you could walk to. I know at least 5 girls that were sexually assaulted, 2 were at parties and 2 were “date rapes”. And the final one was a gang rape by non student locals. I worked in the counseling center so I know there were a lot more incidents than the ones I knew of personally. Some of the worst offenders were athletes as a this was a D1 school. They were considered untouchable. But two of the assaults I knew of I know were committed by kids most students would consider “nerds”. To think this problem is only related to Greek life is completely naive. Not one of the students I knew reported it. According to kids I know that currently attend, the culture has not changed much since I attended.
My son recently joined a frat at a school out west. He’s very open with me and there was no drinking involved in his hazing (2 pledges don’t drink at all). They only had to do things like clean the frat house, set up for parties, interview and memorize info about all the frat brothers, etc. Parties always have several brothers who are not allowed to drink to keep an eye on anyone getting out of control. They had a speaker come in and talk to the pledges about consent. Kids also take a course as part of orientation. Frat parties are open to anyone (even members of other frats) so there is no exclusivity. School seems very liberal about drinking and local bars accept crappy ID’s. But it’s really not considered a party school as lots of kids don’t partake.