@Pharmingturtles my three kids have already graduated from boarding school so I am not anxious at all about the BS application process. I asked if you had already been through the process because those of us on the other side have perhaps a different perspective on things than someone going through it for the first time.
I find your tone unnecessarily harsh. Telling a nervous 13 year old “for the love of god let your school do its job” or not to be someone who thinks the world revolves around them is unkind in the circumstances.