“There’s a lot of bad presumptions there. It sounds like you’re REALLY hung-up on prestige, and that’s not a healthy attitude to have when choosing a college.”
Well the OP went from a list that included Stanford to UCLA and even UCLA alums will tell you that they’re not as prestigious as Stanford. So I think OP has taken some of the good advice on this thread.
It is not totally unhealthy for students to select based on prestige if they admit that’s what they’re doing. Sure they’ll be disappointed but it’s better than applying to prestigious colleges and denying that’s one of the reasons.
If a kid tells me they picked Stanford or Berkeley for CS because they’re prestigious, I wouldn’t say, holy moly that’s the worst decision you just made. Or they’re going to Yale or Brown because they have prestigious humanities programs, I wouldn’t say, no! transfer the first opportunity you get.
To most kids, prestige is fit and vice versa, if you want to convince them differently, you can, but not by yourself, you’d have to get their peers to convince them.