“Aren’t you responsible to pay.”
Those words from your DD, after you explained your financial situation and their need to fill out FA forms, speak volumes. She’s been brainwashed into thinking that you’re rich, and that her college costs are easily affordable, and therefore she doesn’t need to “stress herself” by filling out FA forms. She’s been raised in a household where the adult has never worked, yet things got paid for. She has no real grasp of these college costs.
Heck, maybe appeal to her sense of greed. Tell her that you’ll give her a dime for every dollar worth of free aid beyond her merit scholarship(s). So if she gets a $20k need-based grant from FA filings, she gets $2k. (Obviously, the aid must be need-based free money…not merit, not work study, not loans and it would be a school that she attends).
That said, I still think you need to have an atty get this court order modified to state “instate public college tuition” is the max paid, and that FA forms must be filled out correctly and timely.