Circling back to clarify my comment about guy with “flow” at Grinnell – my point was that kids can make snap judgments based on seemingly random encounters. Few would describe Grinnell as a “lax bro” kind of place and yet, when my kid saw the equivalent of an Abercrombie model as he was preparing to get out for his overnight, all he could see was the guys who were jackasses to him in high school. The challenge for students is to filter, appropriately, for the random incident which does not reflect the character or nature of the community. One might see the random “lax bro” anywhere but that does not mean that is the culture of the school.