Dating - is it worth it?

[Tandem]

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So I started college about a month ago, and I’ve met a lot of great people. This includes one guy who’s cute and really great, and I think I might like him. However, to be honest, I don’t really want to have a boyfriend right now - I just started college and I’m still meeting new people and figuring things out. I also play a sport and I barely have time on weekdays between homework, classes, and practice, so I feel like I don’t really have time.</p>

<p>I also feel like I want to experience college life a little bit before I settle down with one person. I know it sounds terrible, but I feel like I want to meet new people, maybe even hook up with a few people before actually beginning a relationship. I really like him as a person and a friend, though, and I don’t know what to say to him - I’d love it if we could just get to know each other better for a while, but at the same time, I don’t want to feel obligated to go out with him at some point.</p>

<p>Ugh. Any advice? Am I an awful person if I want to, I don’t know, hook up with a few people before I begin an actual relationship?

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<p>“There are people we treat wrong, and later, we’re prepared to treat other people right. Perhaps this sounds mercenary, but I feel grateful for these trial relationships, and I would like to think it all evens out–surely, unknowingly, I have served as practice for other people.”</p>

<p>-Curtis Sittenfeld</p>