Love the difference of parenting techniques on CC. A good friend of mine went from 3.8 GPA to 1.4 first semester at college. He is very successful in his career now. It was a severe wake up call.
If there’s no learning disability /ADD etc then make a contract with her. She has to go to learning /tutor sessions right away not after the first test or quiz. She has to go to Professor office hours. She has to go to the writing center etc etc. Until she can prove that she doesn’t need it. Honestly, just about any kid will benefit from these services anyway.
We tell our kids in the price of college you get all these free services like tutoring and mental help, etc. Use them!
We made a pact with our kids. We pay for college and they give us access to their account. No access then no funds for college. It’s pretty simple, actually.?. (we don’t abuse this either).
All this “their in college, they are grown ups” to me is all garbage. These are your children. I say this all the time… They “need” our help and guidance becoming adults regardless of their age. Do whatever you need to do to help them become successful. Don’t abandon the ship.
If she can’t abide by your rules then she goes to community College. It’s not a threat but her new reality.
My only problem with all of this, is her roommate not returning next semester. Is this the culture and common for this school? If so, then I might think twice.
She might need to repeat some classes also, so have her check into this and show you the email on the decision. Again, your rules.
Also show her the costs of her mistakes. Let her know how much she would owe right now in college with this GPA and that it has to be paid back. If you know what I mean. Is $25,000/semester worth it for her to be there. Sometimes kids don’t get it until they see it in black and white per se.