What @tpike12 is talking about is a valid issue (I won’t question the perception of someone who has lived a life in different shoes from my own). But disadvantages that my kids can not control don’t matter. My 1# goal as a parent is to teach my kids to overcome any and all obstacles that happen in life. There are many types of advantages (wealth, race, being athletic, legacy, knowing the right person in the administration, being famous etc.) that can play a part in getting into an Ivy and some of us may have all of those advantages while others have none of them, but helping my kids to get where they are trying to go is all that matters. No sob stories or whining allowed, but when you don’t reach a goal, adjust, adapt, and know that you need to generate “prestige” out of your own talents and gifts, not count on the prestige of any school. The world is definitely not fair, but one of the best parts about living it is succeeding when others say you can not, and overcoming obstacles that seem insurmountable.