@tpike12 I think you are missing the point about elite schools. Your kid sounds great, but not outstanding in the pool. My kid with similar, maybe even higher, numbers also had 2 major National awards and a complex social history. . She was waitlisted at 2 ivies, denied at MIT, and fortunately, given all the crazy work, accepted at a HYPS.
No one is guaranteed anything at this level of competition. One can blame Hispanics, legacies, Asians, aliens, whatever, but I think that just demonstrates how far out of the game one is.