Even if there are not many, what also matters is acceptance among others who may otherwise be prospective friends or friend groups. I.e. the OP seeks to find friends and friend groups with similar interests, compatible personalities, etc. (the usual criteria) but also has the additional constraint that the other people have to be accepting of the OP being in multiple outgroups. In a small environment (small college with little community around it), the OP may have “used up” all possible candidate friends and friend groups, something that may be less likely in a large environment.
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