<p>@coolbeans123 Truth is, you could spend your whole life trying to figure out why you didn’t make the cut, but that isn’t healthy. I’m sure you have some great options and I know you’ll be successful no matter where you end up. I’m sorry that Stanford didn’t turn out the way you had hoped, but you can always apply as a transfer or for graduate school if you’re still interested when it rolls around.</p>
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<p>I hope that you all found this thread helpful and supportive throughout your three and a half months in purgatory. In an effort to help next year’s deferees, I thought it we could all post our final decision and then where we ended up (once you decide). Mine looks like this:</p>
<p>Accepted 2017
[size=4]YALE[/size=10]</p>
<p>@Britanorex Just wondering, what do you think it was that you got in? Was it your essays, ecs, or are you a legacy? What did you put on your update form?</p>
<p>@coolbeans123</p>
<p>Don’t get caught up in one letter. I really think that you should move on from Stanford. You can’t do anything about the decisions, so why waste all that emotional energy?</p>
<p>No one can answer the question of “How did you get it?” No one knows. Really, you’ll be much happier once you move on, I promise!</p>
<p>Coolbeans, my son was wait listed early round, and has not found any email from Stanford this whole weekend. He is 14 hours ahead (in Cambodia) so his wait feels even longer and more excruciating, since he can’t pick up a phone and call Stanford Monday or after. </p>
<p>Because of such, we have mentally “move-on”. Bulldog2017 is absolutely right on happiness after you move on. My son is now planning to go to Univ. of New Mexico. Sure it’s a big drop in prestige and quality, but it’s a stone’s throw from Sandia National Lab which he will intern at. A year or 2 from now, if he keeps a great GPA and with 2 years Sandia experience (+ 2 more summers at CDC), and getting some top scientists recommending him, he stands a good chance of transferring anywhere, or going to a great grad school. </p>
<p>Life isn’t about how you start but how you finish. Finish strong, and finish on top. </p>
<p>Yeah, I know I should move on, but it’s that terrible nagging feeling of being <em>so</em> close to getting it, and yet so far away. It would be different if Stanford had just rejected me flat out in the REA round - at least I would’ve known that I didn’t stand a chance. But being deferred just made it more painful, in a way, because it shows that I could’ve made it, but by some cruel twist of fate, I didn’t. I don’t know if any of this makes sense or if it’s just your typical teenage angst.
Anyways, I’m trying to move on. But it’s hard.</p>
<p>@coolbeans123</p>
<p>This is going to sound really rude, but it needs to be said.</p>
<p>You need to grow up. I really am genuinely sorry that you didn’t get into your dream school, but you have FANTASTIC opportunities (UCB, Yale, etc.) and dwelling on this one school makes you look juvenile and ungrateful. No one will ever know why you didn’t get in, or even if you were “so close.” Maybe you were at the very bottom of their deferred list. Maybe. Why think of it as “almost getting in” when it may have be “narrowly avoiding rejection” in the early round? Just something to think about.</p>
<p>You are an adult now, and pouting because you might have to go to Yale instead of Stanford is exceptionally childish. In your other threads and responses, you’ve looked for every reason why Yale is evil and even bashed our motto.</p>
<p>I’m very sorry that Stanford didn’t work out for you, but don’t take your other opportunities for granted. I know that it’s really hard, but during this time of grieving, at least keep your pouting to yourself. You shouldn’t be asking other users why they think they deserved a spot and compare yourself to that. It’s a no-win situation, I guarantee you.</p>
<p>I’ve tried really hard to be supportive of all of you for the last three and a half months, but sometimes that requires a little tough love. Here’s my best advice for you right now: don’t get back on CC until after you’ve committed somewhere, or at least not on the Stanford thread. The majority of your questions can be answered by Google and you can always contact the school or current students for the rest of your questions (you should be receiving a call from a Yalie in the next week or so to answer any questions you may have).</p>
<p>@ck90211</p>
<p>Any news from Stanford on your son’s missing email yet? Keep us all updated!</p>
<p>@Bulldog2017 So I guess it is teenage angst then. Yes, I know I need to grow up. But just saying, isn’t it a bit hypocritical for you to be telling me to move on from Stanford when you got accepted from Stanford, Harvard, and Yale?</p>
<p>Also, for the record, I was not trying to bash on Yale. If you thought I was, then I apologize. The reasoning behind my threads in the Yale forums is that I wanted to make sure that I could handle the WORST of what Yale had to offer, in case I needed to move there, all the way across the country, and live by myself without my parents. I literally have not been farther east than LA in my life, and I live in a VERY very sheltered bubble. I wasn’t trying to put Yale down or anything - of course I think it’s an excellent school. I just wanted to hear some honest opinions that would help an OUTSIDER make a decision. I know everyone who goes to Yale is probably enamored with it, as it’s obvious you are - and clearly that means that Yale must be a very special school. However, in my posting of those threads, I just wanted to gain a sense for what the Yale community/environment is like - both the GOOD and the BAD.</p>
<p>@Bulldog2017 Anyway, I don’t want this thread to morph off topic - it is a Stanford thread, after all - so let’s continue this conversation through PM. I’m also curious to learn more about Yale and STEM, and if I remember correctly, you’re a STEM student, right?</p>
<p>Sorry to be long winded but son got rejected. Was a little disappointing (for him and I) but we have moved on and for the better. </p>
<p>We were kidding that with nearly 40K kids rejected maybe one of them hacked Stanford’s system. And that hacker is more likely to succeed in life then those going. </p>
<p>Getting deferred early was already a moral victory for him (if there is such thing). He is Asian, had low GPA and SAT, and no SAT2’s and AP’s. Without “these” he could only apply to Stanford and no UC’s or Ivy’s, because these other schools required SAT2’s. </p>
<p>He could have gotten all that but elected to go to Cambodia for the last 3 years and just did not have the kind of prep or intensive schooling that most Stanford/Ivy bound have access to. Look up Khmer Rouge and you will know what kind of country/schooling I am talking about. What he got was 3 years of knowing/learning/living the 3rd world, being a young diplomat (proudly representing the US without acting like the stereotypical Ugly or Arrogant American Abroad), worked at CDC and built a database for government of Cambodia to analyze and trend AIDS/HIV data for sex workers. </p>
<p>Impressive and unique experience, no doubt that’s what kept him on the wait list earlier round, but still not good enough to get in. We could have ask the “What if” question. Considering there are 8 Ivys he could have gotten into at least one, but we too have moved on from that. </p>
<p>Life isn’t about getting top choices, or making the best choices, but making the 2nd, 3rd or last choice into the best ones. So for those rejected don’t feel too bad, and for those who are going, don’t take your eyes/foot off (because the rejected ones may be more hungry than ever). </p>
<p>@Bulldog2017 thanks for all your help in this process.</p>
<p>Accepted 2018
Stanford</p>
<p>Ended up rejected at Stanford but accepted at MIT, Columbia, Hopkins and Duke. Headed to Duke on a full ride (University Scholars Program). To future deferred students, it’s tough to believe but a better opportunity is probably waiting just around the corner for you. So take a day or two to get over the initial disappointment and jump right back into those RD apps if you procrastinated them…everything will end well.</p>
<p>Rejected Stanford 2018
Going to UC Berkeley, couldn’t be more excited. Awesome program in my field, plus I’m really starting to fall in love with the campus atmosphere. I’m sure you’ll all do amazing things, no matter where you end up.</p>
<p>@Bulldog2017 thanks for all your heartfelt comments. Sadly I didn’t get into Stanford, but there’s always graduate school…right? Medical school will be even tougher to get into though, I expect.</p>
<p>Rejected 2018
Johns Hopkins</p>
<p>Rejected from Stanford</p>
<p>Accepted
Johns Hopkins (Hodsons Trust Scholarship), UC Berkeley (Regents), UC Davis (Regents), UC San Diego</p>
<p>Ended up deciding on Hopkins since I really liked it, it’s ranked first for my major (BME), and the scholarship is nice. </p>
<p>Rejected , michigan is where he will be going . Life </p>
<p>Accepted in RD to Stanford, but I’m not attending there. I received a likely letter from Columbia in early march, and between then and the stanford/ivy decision days I realized Columbia was a much better fit (I adored the core curriculum, the vibrance of a city, the massive focus on my field with a half a billion dollars worth of money going into a cornerstone research building opening my junior year, etc.) By the time other ivy decisions rolled around I had already almost decided. It came down to a matter of fit, and goes to show that even though I was leaning Stanford through most of high school and extensive research, it ended up being the wrong place for me. Also accepted to UChicago, Tulane on full scholarship, Brown, UPenn, 5 UCs all with regents (Berkeley, LA, SD, SC, SB), and some miscellaneous safeties. </p>
<p>Deferred Stanford REA, eventually Accepted during RD.
I was also accepted to MIT, UChicago, and Cornell.
Decided to attend Stanford, however. (I applied REA for a reason 
)</p>
<p>Was also eventually accepted to Stanford during the RD round and will be heading there in the fall! :-bd If you’re reading this, good luck c/o 2019 deferrees and know something good will be coming your way soon!</p>