I really don’t want to derail your thread, CF. However, I wonder about the usefulness of a new thread with links to some older ones, including dstark’s Missoula book thread, might be helpful to posters who weren’t around then??
There were lots of good men posting their concerns about rape culture.
Adding:
dstark is a former male poster very concerned about rape, especially on college campuses. Private banker: please search his threads. You will perhaps find them interesting and educational. Many of us did at the time.