Just throwing this out there…This sounds like the author has a connection to those in the computer/software community. Long ago I read an article that proposed that there is a greater percentage of autistic people in the computer industry and the genetics would of course be passed to their kids. And they are more (perhaps) looking for the “sure” thing when it comes to having children than the general population (who are mostly happy with 10 fingers and 10 toes to start).
But EVERYBODY looks for the “right” mate. Not everyone finds them of course but I certainly looked for traits in my husband that bode well–kind, even tempered, smart, cute! If I was doing IVF I’d certainly be hoping for those same traits and research what I could. Pot luck is OUT! And screening for genetic mutations is pretty much standard these days no matter what. I don’t consider any of that “designing” a baby in the least.
Do you get the kid you always want? Hey, we’re on CC for life for a reason.