<p>Yeah. I think that’s the key to a meal for me when, either by choice or circumstance, you are faced with bad options. Try to not compound the damage. Have the burger. Even have the bun if you want. But, don’t compound it with the fries or the sugar drink or the dessert. I even try to follow that approach for something like T-giving dinner. I’ll have some stuffing and gravy, but not compound it with mashed potatoes on top of it…</p>
<p>I think the hardest thing is fast food eating on the road. Wow, is it hard to come up with options. And breakfast, in general, is just a nightmare if you try to follow my general approach of “no sugar, no grains”…</p>
<p>I’m still doing the KFC boneless fried chicken. It’s now $5.29 if you order two pieces by itself. It’s $3.99 if you order the 2-piece combo meal with sides of carbs and a coke. So, I have to pull [a</a> Jack Nicholson](<a href=“http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6***NE4z6a8]a”>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6***NE4z6a8) to get my two pieces, no sides…</p>
<p>That’s all there was on this hike. It’s so hot and muggy that I knew a steep mountain climb would be brutal. This one folllows streams almost the entire way. You can actually feel the temperature fall next to some of these waterfalls and streams. A nice breeze was blowing across a very cold Lonesome Lake directly into my face while I was eating lunch. Felt great, and it dried my shirt…</p>
<p>BCEagle - this isn’t the 1950’s. There is no law that says that the woman has to be the sole food preparer in the house. Can you buy premade salads, or those chicken breast strips that you can shake on a salad? Can you buy yogurt, or a particular type of fruit or vegetable, maybe something like precut celery or carrots that you can have on hand? Are there particular non-caloric drinks you like, like a certain kind of tea or vitamin water if you like that sort of thing? You’re doing so much good for yourself on the exercise front, it would be a shame to “waste away” the diet / food part of it.</p>
<p>Couples can choose how they wish to run their households. If they want the 1950s, then they can do that.</p>
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<p>If I have problems at home, then I start to buy food outside. But it’s not something that I care to do. It’s relatively expensive, takes me extra time to pick up, and we have an excess of food leftover at home. It’s plan inefficient.</p>
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<p>I just drink water most places and coffee in the office because it is free.</p>
<p>I know the challenges. I’ve been dealing with them for 25 years. I’ve gotten better at it over time. But life still tosses challenges in my way.</p>
<p>I think BC raises a very real challenge. It is really hard when people in a household don’t share the same approach to diet. Whether it’s junk food snacks for the kids or a wife and husband with different philosophies. And, that’s before you add the additional “complexity” that arises when one philosophy is working and the other isn’t. :)</p>
<p>I suspect that the more common problem is husbands who fight tooth and nail against wives’ healthy eating philosophies.</p>
<p>3.57 mile walk with 19 minutes of running. Daily planks, girlie pushups and glute stuff.</p>
<p>BCE, having read your workouts for the last couple of years, I think you do a good job of balancing the challenges, and you’ve had pretty good results too. I fall off the good eating wagon quite often actually (mint chocolate chip ice cream for lunch yesterday is just the latest example :)), but I always get back on.</p>
<p>I don’t think that anyone in our family would want this approach. We like to pick out our groceries. I don’t think that our local grocery stores even provide this service.</p>
<p>I have wives mention this to me in the office - because they’ve seen that I lost so much weight. I just tell them that you can’t make someone else do something that they really don’t want to. They have to make the desire to change on their own.</p>
<p>Yes, eating healthy (in your case) requires extra effort. But so does all the working-out that you do. It seems that you’ve made a choice to expend that effort for working-out, but you’re not at a point where you’re willing to expend that effort to bring your diet in line with what you want. Which is fine – we all have different tradeoffs, and I am certainly in no position to be holier-than-thou on diet and exercise. But it IS a choice on your part to structure your household so that your wife “owns” the food, and it IS a choice on your part not to go do your own shopping. You do have the choice to structure it differently. You choose not to. Which, if it works for you, is great!</p>
<p>BCEagle, would it be of use to you to have this group brainstorm on suggestions to help you, or is it simply that’s-the-way-it-is? There’s a lot of brainpower on this board, IMO.</p>
<p>My workouts have suffered this summer too. I’m running about a quarter of the distance compared to a few months ago now. The difference with exercise is that you lose it (muscle, endurance, skin toughness, etc.) if you don’t use it. And you can lose it quite quickly too. I think that the commitment to 1 mile or more per day from MOWC is a good idea. It motivates you to do it every day.</p>
<p>My kids have arguments with my wife over these same issues. I just tell them not to bother because it creates friction and conflict and it makes my life more difficult. They don’t understand so I have to explain it to them. I think that this is fairly standard stuff in the counseling books that I’ve read.</p>
<p>I have a few nagging injuries that I figure that I’ll just have to live with for the rest of my life. I have limitations that I’m aware of at work, in sports, in trading. I know about them and just work within my limitations. That same philosophy can work with couples too.</p>
<p>Been there, done that. Rinse and repeat. It’s oftentimes better to ignore problems as you really can’t change other people unless they want to be changed.</p>