Of course.
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how would schools even look at my disciplinary case? its so messed up
What do you mean? If you divulge it, and a school wants to know more, they would call your school counselor. I donāt know how all the legalities/disclosure rules workā¦@hanna?
On one hand you say, yes Iāll be honest.
But then you are trying to get out of being honest.
Thatās not a good look - be honest and be done.
Iām not that concerned about what the high school will say. Iām worried about what third parties will say. If you were running a business, that means you had customers, and a lot of other kids know what you were up to and that it was against the rules. If the facts are nuanced, explain them. But be aware that if you tell a story that seems to have pieces missing, theyāll fill those blanks in for you and assume that the missing info must be pretty bad if you wonāt share it. The truth is rarely as bad as what they will imagine in the absence of information.
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99% of kids have been disciplined in high school in some capacity. Example. Mr. Cās biology class was being disruptive and he said āno one gets early to lunch privileges todayā. They were disciplined in that fashion (even the kids sitting quietly).
Does Timmy in the class report in his college application that he was disciplined in high school? Of course not. But is he technically lying?
My point being is that there are a lot of nuances in the questions and how to answer.
How about getting a JUG for not having your shirt tucked in? Or wearing tennis shoes to class? These types of disciplinary actions happen at our high school every.single.day. And does anyone remember freshman year when he forgot to get a hall pass to go to the bathroom and Mr. Smith sent him to the office?
Of course a high schooler is going to agonize over answering these questions.
Quit making excuses about how minimal this issue is! You want someone here to tell you that itās OK not to mention it. Do you see anyone telling you that? Thatās because everyone has had experience with this kind of issue.
You are going in circles to try to avoid whats right. No one is going to condone your pleas to ignore the issue.
Have some integrity and fess up! If you show openness, theyāll see it and be impressed with your integrity and honesty.
It sounds like youāre not happy with the advice given here. Go ahead and ignore it but it will catch up with you.
When you digitally sign that college application, you are saying that everything on there is the truth. You will get fact checked and they have every right to rescind any application or acceptance.
The problem is that you donāt know the consequences. Once you are rescinded from a school, that school gets nasty. They flag your application. Other colleges get notified because your application is shared with the National Clearinghouse and your application will be toast.
How do I know this?
1). I worked at a high school.
And
2). My college friend (Leslie) had a roommate who was was dismissed (with security escorts) in their dorm apartment.
Roommate avoided telling the school something minor and they didnāt know what else she had āheld backā so they informed her in writing and she didnāt read/avoided the mail.
They came very early in the morning and had her call her parents then gather her things, and her parents came to pick her up.
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From OPās other post, this was not a minimal punishment. It was an expulsion.
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Can we not treat this as a witch hunt???
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I donāt understand what you mean?
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I completely missed that the OP was kicked out of the school. How does that not end up in the school report/record/transcript? But having to switch schools is clearly a big very reportable offense.
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Yes, itās odd that this thread has gone this long.
OP is either hiding something to us - and certainly wants to the school.
Something is amiss - and OP is applying to Ivies so the likelihood of acceptance is very slim to begin with.
Thereās a lot to be said for owning up to your mistakes in life. A lotā¦
I will tell them because there is no benefit in not.
I have a solution for that.
Thatās the answer. And most responses have echoed. So on that note, closing thread. Good luck.
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