<p>@miami–I think there’s a really good point in what you’ve just said. In some sense, it doesn’t matter how Harvard seems to most people. But it matters a lot how a person experiences Harvard herself. If Harvard was making your friend, or the OP’s daughter, miserable, that’s an issue worth taking on. </p>
<p>Not everybody has to leave Harvard in order to resolve the issue, of course, but some will.</p>