My RL friends’ kids’ college choices have ranged from Yale, Penn, Princeton, Northwestern, U of Illinois, U of Iowa, Kansas, some state directionals, and some unremarkable LACs. And so what? It’s not my job to raise other people’s kids. If they are happy and stable, that’s all that’s important to me. And I’m a fancy-school snob for my own kids, but that’s the whole point - they are my OWN kids. Other people don’t have to value those kinds of schools the way my H and I do. It’s ok.