@OldFashioned1 your post could have been written in 1966 by a family frienemy. Lotta glee behind small town pearl clutching about my very smart brother’s lack of accomplishment, ambition, and effort during his final years of high school.
In the half century since then, he proceeded to be the poster child of “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink”. He did not come around, pull himself up, or ever, ever ever come close to what my parents and the community might have expected based on his family genetics, his clear intelligence, or the loving care of his family.
So what’s your point? The kid isn’t living up to YOUR expectations? Your posts say so much more about you than they do about anyone else’s child or any one else’s parenting.