Regarding the original thread - which was about either low or high expectations – we have family members who put a lot of pressure on their kids to be athletically competitive at high levels, even insisting that they get D1 scholarships in their sports and that that should drive their choices (this is a family who could WELL afford to pay full fare anywhere). They actually had a custom jacket made up for the father which says “D1 parent” and lists the sports / scholarships. I think this is a family who has a lot of ego invested in “showing off” through sports, and it falls on deaf ears as far as my H and I are concerned, as we couldn’t care less about our children having any kind of sports success or having that factor in any way, shape or form in a decision about college. But guess what? At the end of the day, they weren’t my kids to raise. Not my circus, not my monkeys, which is my new favorite phrase.