Do the (low or high) expectations friends or family have for their children ever shock you?

“It’s cool to be gunning for an elite school and high status career” is code for “everyone pokes their nose into everyone else’s scores / GPA / college acceptance, and everyone thinks that being an investment banker or hedge fund / private equity guy is the coolest thing for no reason other than it makes a lot of money.” No thanks. In our household, we don’t make our decisions based on what others think is “cool.” Under the radar is far more chic and elegant.