<p>For all of you that support the idea of chivalry, what is the reasoning behind it? Basically what I’m asking is what is special about girls that make certain jokes “unacceptable” to them but not your other male friends, assuming you’re all generally one group.</p>
<p>Some of you say that women and men are different, hence the different treatment. First, doesn’t this go against the idea that they are both equal; doesn’t this thinking essentially work against the women’s movement? I dont believe the idea that different but equal holds up here. For example, most people DO generally hold the door open for handicap people. COULD they open the doors themselves? Most likely yes, but with much trouble. Hence, we help them because the ability isn’t equal. What I want to know is what you think seperates women and men, these “inherent differences” that neccesitate this different treatment?</p>
<p>unwritten02: While i agree with the idea that people treat people they deem worthy of their respect with respect, I don’t see why gender plays any role in this. Again, I don’t see this distinction or any logical reason why a respectable girl would be treated with more respect than a same-mannered guy. Your example doesn’t exactly stand in that if a woman were inclined to act proper and lady-like most of the time, the crowd she involves herself with most likely would not be the type to have harsh language in the first place would it? Wouldn’t it be logical to say a group of friends at least have certain values or interests that are similar? So if this particular person has an emphasis on etiquette, one would think her friends are the same way.</p>
<p>frozen-tears: How would treating two people the same…not be equal? I agree that a lot of guys do “instinctively” change their tone etc., and that’s what I’m questioning =P Can you also elaborate how some jokes or language are simply not acceptable only when girls are around? If you are against racist jokes or such, shouldn’t that ALWAYS be wrong, not only if girls are around?</p>