Our kid complained jokingly we never told him to study harder. We told him don’t stay late to study and get a good night of sleep. We told him why push him harder when he tries hard on his own? We just told him great job whether he got As or Bs, and told him not to worry when he didn’t get test scores he wanted. We did make him join a cross country though so he can get some exercise. After one semester, his respect for jocks went up big time because he had a very tough time staying awake to study after training or competing.
Why did we do it this way? I didn’t study that much and I am doing fine. My wife knows this so she thinks it’s not good to add to stress of my kid.