I’m not really a fan of Meghan, but some items in your list are unfair.
I have read Spare, and the account of how Meghan allegedly made Princess Charlotte cry is very, very different. The Oprah ? interview version is consistent with Spare. In that version, Kate is a ten star brat–most people would use a different word starting with a B. I wasn’t there–so who knows–but I found the Spare version one heck of a lot more believable than the one Kate & BRF linked to the press. So, even if you find the Kate & BRF version more believable, at least acknowledge that the version is not universally accepted as true.
My understanding is that H & M did get the Queen’s permission to use the name Lillibet. Apparently the now King thinks they needed his permission too. Since he wasn’t the reigning monarch at the time, I don’t think his consent was required. H&M probably knew he’d say no if asked because they were fairly estranged by the time Lillibet was born.
Meghan is close to her mom. She also is supposed to be close to her cousin. There are a heck of a lot of half siblings who don’t like each other, so M not liking her Markle half siblings is not exactly shocking. If you think the Oprah interview was in poor taste, how do you justify “Princess Pushy, parts 1 and 2?” I haven’t read it, but I have read some reviews. Samantha Markle’s says her stepmother was absolutely horrible. In SM’s retelling, she “adored” Meghan. So, it’s all Meghan’s fault they don’t get along. But if you had a half-sibling who wrote truly ugly things about your mom, whom you are close to–would she be your best buddy?(And even accepting SM’s version as gospel, she was not exactly nice to Doria.) Moreover, SM admits that one of her grandmothers was a racist and said horrible things about Doria and M based solely on the color of their skin.
BTW, SM has this whole sob story about how she couldn’t cope after her divorce, so her ex-H’s parents volunteered to take her kids. They legally adopted them. Suspicious much? Oh and SM says her own mother was awful. Maybe…I don’t know…but personally, given how many people SM herself is estranged from, I don’t think it’s all that surprising that Meghan is on her list and I don’t jump to the conclusion it’s all M’s fault.
Thomas’s behavior was despicable; he wanted to make a buck out of his daughter’s wedding. Then he was paid for a letter Meghan wrote him about it and the letter was published. Are you aware that’s illegal in the US? If you doubt me, check some of the legal cases involving JD Sallinger, whose ex-lover Joyce Maynard attempted to publish the letters he wrote her. Basic premise:the author of a letter owns the words in it, i.e., the copyright. If you want to publish a letter someone wrote, you need the permission of the author. The recipient owns the physical letter, but cannot publish it. Selling someone else’s writing is theft. If Thomas didn’t know that the sleazes who bought it did, which may be why the sale allegedly took place in Mexico. (That just muddies the waters. Short version: it’s probably an attempt to avoid criminal prosecution. )
As for Harry’s family, not everyone is estranged. Charles and WIlliam and Camilla, yes. But supposedly, H &M remain good friends with his cousins Eugenie and Beatrice and get along well with his mother Princess Diana’s family.
And, maybe he shouldn’t have written it, but the account in Spare of William hitting Harry because he didn’t like the way Meghan was behaving, if truthful, explains why H and W are estranged.
As for the staff turnover, there are a few accounts that say it’s just not true. Others say that basically William wanted all the staff for H&M to be loyal to W &K and report back everything H&M did to him.
Look at the last two “spares.” Prince Andrew is…not a nice man. I base this on listening to his interview on British TV in its entirety. I don’t need to know what anyone else says about him; based on his own words, he is…not nice. But then someone who was friends with Epstein isn’t likely to be.
Margaret was a beautiful, intelligent woman who was given a lousy education and who married a man who would sleep with anyone who would consent. Tony A-J had a girlfriend throughout their engagement and impregnated another woman during that time. (Not rumor; confirmed by DNA.) Margaret had a drinking problem and allegedly also had a drug problem. She also spent most of her time later in life outside the UK on the island of Mustique. She was allegedly promiscuous.
So, maybe Harry didn’t see a great life for himself in the UK once he was no longer needed as a spare. I think he’s far from perfect, but he certainly wins any likability contest with Andrew. He hasn’t messed up his life to the extent that Princess Margaret messed up hers. (BTW, she supposedly said that once her sister had children, she had no real job. She also said that if there were 2 sisters and one was queen and therefore had to be believed to be perfect, the press was going to make the other sister into everything that is bad. The press seems to be repeating this with Kate and Meghan.)
When H and M first left the UK I watched some of the shows. In several, the British royal photographer–I think that’s his title, anyway who took a lot of photos of the BRF–said over and over again how happy Harry was before he met Meghan; how he used to go out for a drink with the press pool and was always the life of the party. Then he met Meghan and he wouldn’t socialize anymore and he became so depressed. She changed him.
Before M came into the picture, H, W and K formed some mental health charity. W said he and K had been worried about H’s mental health and struggle to come to terms with his mother’s death and suggested he get therapy. Not once did anything of these Brit shows point out that his own brother and wife were worried about H’s mental health problems before he met M. Not once did anyone point out that a bachelor prince might go out drinking with the guys, but most men change their habits after they get involved in a serious relationship.
I think the Brits are angry that Harry left the UK. Harry was their “bonny boy,” and so they blame everything he’s done, especially leaving the UK, on M. And some of the press seem to be positively hoping for a divorce.
For the record, I’m really not a fan of Meghan’s, but I do think a lot of the bad press is orchestrated to get ratings and make money. H is a grown man; he’s responsible for his own choices.