I think you should find the right schools for you and schools where you will qualify and could attend. That does include affordability so if having in state tuition helps you to afford, then great. At the same time, you are not in the military / don’t have the experience so why would a school take you for that?? Now, perhaps your parents military background or constant moving and adapting will make for a great essay and that will help you??
I have relatives who have been in Germany and now the Netherlands. I’m sure, if the kids when they grow up decide to write about their upbringing, it could be quite interesting.