There are some CCs that are now starting to offer 4 year degrees, and I wouldn’t doubt if there are only a few in the country that offer 4 year degrees in criminal justice. It also wouldn’t surprise me if hundreds do and this mom thinks only a few (2) do.
Sometimes I see something on FB that is a different plan than I’d been told. A post about a trip mid-semester, and I later find out the student isn’t in school any more. Nothing about playing in a game, and it turns out the student no longer plays that sport. I don’t think anyone wants to post “Hey, guess what, my child isn’t going to GW but instead to an out of state community college because _____ (didn’t have the grades, didn’t have the money, wants to go to Clown School instead of becoming a doctor)”
Often the parents are dealing with a little bit of disappointment too. You’ll get the whole story at some point. Until then, respond with “So glad he’s safe.” It would not surprise me that the next post is how the plan to go to school in Houston had to be changed because of the storm. It’s not going to be a fun place to be for the next 2-3 years.
You would probably know the whole story if you engaged with your friend outside of FB. You can’t expect to get an in-depth story on social media, and it sounds like you haven’t seen her in person in a long time. Try meeting up with her face to face, and your suspicions will probably be alleviated.
How are you going to feel if your FB friend blurts out (after interrogatories) that the kid is attending a nearby community college as part of (i) the Houston, TX drug rehab treatment program the kid is in enrolled or (ii) a work release from a local jail.
There’s plenty of good reasons a person may want to be vague or tell a white lie. From personal experience, I can tell you that being asked about a kid who is struggling can be quite painful. Especially if the questions are coming from a nosey clue-less parent whose kids are thriving (despite the clue-less parenting those kids seem to have received).
If the FB friend was comfortable sharing more, she will or would have already.
“How are you going to feel if your FB friend blurts out (after interrogatories) that the kid is attending a nearby community college as part of (i) the Houston, TX drug rehab treatment program the kid is in enrolled or (ii) a work release from a local jail.”
Or (iii) getting cancer treatment at one of the outstanding research hospitals there.
25 years ago, my parents got very frustrated with a spate of last-minute cancellations from dear family friends. Weird timing, unconvincing excuses, etc. One day we got a call to come and say goodbye to the mom in hospice. She’d been in cancer treatment for a couple of years, and they chose not to share it with even their closest friends. I don’t think it’s the choice we’d make in my family, but I’m glad now that we didn’t do any sleuthing – they wanted privacy more than anything else.