<p>None of us get to see “the road you didn’t take”. That is one reason that research and a family plan are so important- so that everyone (kid and parent) feel good about choices being made- b/c no matter how you slice it, it’s too much $$ to spend on something that isn’t what you want it to be. @calliene - Montclair sounds great, and if your D is thriving there, that makes it the right place at any price 
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