<p>@Vladenschlutte “Someone’s gonna have to dumb this down for me… .” </p>
<p>Okay, the first vignette the parent says the girl is pretty, when she is getting into the rocks they say “get out of there”, when she seems interested in sea creatures they tell her to put it down, when she in interested in planets they tell her she is too going too far, when she is interested in building a rocket they tell her not to hurt herself and tell her to let her brother put in the screw. </p>
<p>None of those comments is inappropriate individually, and the parents are well meaning. However, the impact of those types of comments in aggregate is that she is encouraged to be “pretty” and discouraged from being curious about nature and building things. </p>
<p>The point is that, without even realizing it, people can be guide a child toward one thing and away from others. The point is to raise adults awareness of the types of messages they send to girls. </p>
<p>I suspect that most of the people who post on cc are probably much more aware of this type of thing in general than the average person in the population would be. Even if they do not thing about it consciously. </p>
<p>Clearly these things happen. At least they do in our family. </p>
<p>Things relatives have said about our daughters.
- Why do the girls swim and play water polo all year? Isn’t that much sports bad for girls?
- Me: "D1 has been accepted to Columbia, Berkeley, Penn, Cornell, Carnegie Mellon, Michigan, Virginia, and UCLA. After a lot of consideration and visits, she has decided to attend Penn as a CS major.
Response:“Are you sure she is ready for a 4 year school? Did you think about sending her to community college?”
- Facebook post that D1 was one of about 3,500 students in the country who have been invited to be US Presidential Scholar candidates. I get 2 likes. Facebook post of D1 dressed up for prom gets about 100 likes.
- I tell the family that D1 applied and was accepted to an Electrical Engineering and CS summer program at MIT last summer (about a 10% acceptance rate).
Response: Why would she want to do that? Wouldn’t she rather stay home with her friends?</p>
<p>Maybe it is just my nutty family, idk. However, I do not think that they would have the same responses if she were a boy. They don’t mean to intentionally discouraging, but the message is there.</p>