<p>Colin, you mentioned you did some activities in high school, but maybe I missed it if you said it: did you try joining some activities in college? (Someone mentioned EMT, but you said that wasn’t your thing.) How about a pre-law group, if you have one? What do you usually do in your spare time?</p>
<p>Tufta08 I assume you go to Tufts. How is it? I’m considering transferring there from my current small state school in VA.</p>
<p>Mightymeals, I sent you a PM :)</p>
<p>Adconard said, “I think that should be reworded as “learn to take your problems less seriously” or really “realize you have the freedom to treat your problem as a challenge to overcome and not some horrible event in your life”.”</p>
<p>Adconard, I agree with what you said, so let me rephrase: when I said “learn to take yourself less seriously”, I meant resist the temptation to exaggerate and amplify day-to-day problems. I did not mean compromise principles or integrity or whatnot. Hope that’s clear.</p>
<p>I just wanted to say that all of your replies, especially tufta08’s, have given me insight on what I need to accomplish next semester. I do not work nor did I join any clubs (although I still am in CC) which explains why I go home with an empty passenger seat and 0 missed calls. I hope that I can learn from this experience and overcome my social problems. Hopefully I will be able to make quality connections when I transfer in the Fall.</p>
<h1>21…I was in Student Council and ran clock for basketball games.</h1>
<p>Other hobbies: I like to write (currently I’m halfway through Act I of an original play) and also play with software for my PB G4/OS 10.4.3.</p>
<p>As for pre-law, we don’t have a group down here in the southwest.</p>
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<p>Haha, all too familiar. I don’t even know why I own a cellphone. Oh yeah, so my parents can call me every week. :P</p>
<p>^ Did that sound poetic? I try. hehe j/k. But seriously, I was thinking the other day that I wish I had someone, like a psychologist, to talk to about this. I remember my friend suggesting that I take a class to improve my social skills.</p>
<p>Colin, at my school, there are acting and directing classes. There’s also a screenwriting course and opportunities to have your play acted out by other students. Theater’s big here. I’m wondering if there is there something like this at your school? What about a drama club? I’m just throwing out ideas here, but…</p>
<p>Is there a creative writing class that you can take? A lot of the creative writing classes offer workshop-format discussions, and you can get to know others substancially. Any literary magazines or publications?</p>
<p>“which explains why I go home with an empty passenger seat and 0 missed calls. I hope that I can learn from this experience and overcome my social problems.” </p>
<p>“Haha, all too familiar. I don’t even know why I own a cellphone. Oh yeah, so my parents can call me every week. :P” </p>
<p>I really feel for you guys. But, like nikkei325i said, the most important thing is to learn from this experience. What might you do differently next semester? Can you appear more friendly, ready to meet people? Take the initiative in calling others, even for something small, like a lunch date? </p>
<p>You might be surprised that next semester you’ll return knowing more about what your “role” is, so to speak, having established some sort of niche. It does get easier as you go along (really). In that case, work on being more outgoing and receptive. At the same time, remember that you’re in college to learn. If your unhappiness truly interferes with your learning, perhaps transferring will then be a good idea. Even so, when you transfer, you’ll have hopefully learned from previous mistakes and understand now how you might present yourself anew. </p>
<p>Good luck to all of you.</p>
<p>there;'s nothing wrong with 0 missed calls. i always pick up my phone when it rings.</p>
<h1>29…I just took my final for the intro theater class. There’s acting classes, as well as the school newspaper. I’ll look into having the play acted out by other students (and I can send out my revisions as pdf files should folks be interested…)</h1>
<h1>30…that’s what I’ve been thinking. I do need to apear more friendly. I’ve had six people say “You’re 24, right?” and I’m not even close to that.</h1>
<p>Wow, we go to the same school! That is insane. </p>
<p>Anyways, do you have a roommate? He might be able to help you meet new people. And I do believe there’s a theater club for undergrads, possibly just freshman, you might wanna look into it. Well, good luck on your finals this week, although I’m sure you don’t need luck. Have a wonderful break, and I hope things start looking up for you next semester.</p>
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<p>does older age=appear unfriendly? I’m lost.</p>
<h1>33…no, I don’t have a roommate.</h1>
<h1>34…will look into that.</h1>
<h1>35…it sure seems that way. As stated initially, don’t drink, smoke, or do drugs. I seem dedicated and that’s why folks think I’m old.</h1>
<p>How come you don’t have a roommate? I think that right there puts you on the outside of things.</p>
<p>while this forum is helpful for giving tips and cheering you up, I think you could benefit for talking things over with a counselor at your school. Your issues are things they have dealt with before. As they say on their website
Going to see a counselor is not a sign of weakness, its a positive sign that you’re concerned about the way things are and are willing to take steps to learn how to change them.</p>
<h1>37…see my private message.</h1>
<h1>38…thanks.</h1>
<p>I will go to bed now. I will rejoin the forums at 0630 local time.</p>
<p>Generally I do this to beef up on my knowledge of women, but I suppose it would help make friends too. </p>
<p>Carefully observe people. (and don’t make it obvious) Don’t just watch what people do, watch for reactions. Also, make note of facial expressions, signs of people being uncomfortable (like crossing their arms, touching their face, fidgeting, etc.) and all sorts of tiny details to see what works and what doesn’t. Try to see how people interact to make eachother comfortable and avoid awkward situations. Don’t just use that information to read other people, make sure you use that knowledge for yourself. Don’t do things that look dumb (like touching your face or fidgetting) around other people. </p>
<p>Also, don’t be afraid to try stuff on random people. It’s a good way to learn how people react to certain things. For example, I like to do little experiments in the elevator to see how people react to stuff (and they can’t just walk away, at least for a little bit). It’s just another way to learn about how people relate to one another.</p>
<p>A really important to make friends is to remember stuff. When I meet a new girl I try to remember everything she says, cuz when I spit out some little detail later in casual conversation, she usually notices that I remembered. I think it would work well for making friends as well. (And you absolutely MUST remember names. If you forget a name, it’s all over, people hate that). Just make sure you really listen to people. Allow people to get to know you as well, but don’t talk about yourself too much, people don’t like that. The best approach is to not talk about yourself directly.</p>
<p>I don’t know how much of this applies to you, don’t feel insulted or anything, these are just things I have learned. There’s alot more of this kind of stuff if you are interested. Your university also probably offers an interpersonal communications course, I reccomend it. I took one at the community college in town my senior year in high school, and we interacted a lot with eachother in class and I learned alot about people. Just a thought.</p>