Everything you’ve said about your daughter’s make up makes me think she really needs to explore WPI. Not sure what sport she plays, but with WPI being D3, she could easily continue in college if they offer it. I don’t think WPI gets the love it deserves in CA, but it is highly regarded in the Northeast. She will get out with hands-on/practical experience. Material moves quickly, since it’s a trimester system (allows for more classes and she can explore business classes to see if they are of interest), yet students still have a low key vibe about them. Everyone does a practical project/internship that is planned into your course work, so there wouldn’t be any juggling around sports/clubs, etc. They tend to give great merit to girls yet have a reasonable m:f ratio. While Worcester is no Mayberry, it’s a fun little city for college kids. We know tons of kids that have attended and they have never had any issues with the city and have all done really well upon graduation.
For a more “traditional” big college experience (meaning active greek life), Vandy comes to mind. Another school that encourages women in STEM.
I can also see her having an interest in Michigan Tech (car industry). Kids that go love it, but it takes a “special” kind. It’s really hard to get to. (We dropped it from our list for that reason, but will always feel like it’s the one that got away. Especially after an invite for a full scholarship competition) and I believe it’s something like 70:30 male to female. Once your manage to get there, the isolation actually seems to make the student body closer and more active. And despite the isolation, they have a heavily attended job fair with recruiters staying 3 hours away just to get a spot to interview MT students.