Exeter or Choate?

@Happytimes2001 advice to visit the schools you are interested in is the best way to get your questions answered and get a feel for each community. Again, people here are happy to share their experience but, ultimately, only you and your daughter know what’s important to her and your family and will make the best choice based on that criteria. You can start comparing the schools you list by looking them up on boardingschoolreview.com and/or each school’s website to understand how they compare on hard data (size, location, teacher-student ratio, test scores, curriculum, etc.) and then come back here to delve further but, again, with specific questions.